The real Test
Was sharing with CW the other day about a 8 young boy. On a fine sunny day, he decided to take some initiative to help his washing his father’s dirty car. As he could not find a cloth to wipe dry the car, he suddenly remember seeing his mother using the wire coil to wash clean the dirty dark pot. Since he know where his mother kept the coil, he reach for it and begin washing his father’s car.
As you had guess it, the car was badly scratched and defaced. If you were his father, what would you do? The moral of the story is… looking at the intention behind the action. This little boy may be naive and do not know that washing a dirty pot is different to a dirty car; but his kind intention is to relief his father.
OK, this is what happen in real life by Marina. Yesterday, CW, suddenly walked out of the bath room and confronted Marina, “Did you unscrew the cap of the bathing cream?”
“Yeah…” Before Marina can futher on..
“WHY! Why did you do that? The soap is very expersive and you pour away of the bottle…”: CW was furious..
“I want to help you because it’s tight and I slipped…”
“Why are you irresponsible…we worked so hard to safe and you just open it and so carelessly dropped the bottle and pour away half of the soap… you did not even tell us…it’s so danger as well…”
Marina stool there with tears rolling in her eye…after about 5 minutes of outpour, CW walked away.
I asked Marina, why did she do that. Her simple answer was, because, the cap was too tight, she want to help to loosen it a little so that CW need not to use too much strength to unscrew it at end of week to top up the liquid. However, she was not careful and drop the soap bottle, as such, half of it was wasted. She did not tell us as it was not part of her awareness that she needs to do so. Of course, apart of the Expensive soap, she was not aware how much it cost (hint…it’s from Nuskin…) anyway, lastly, what she did not realise the danger of slippery of bathroom when the soap is not clear.
Many time, when things happened, it’s not easy for us to be aware of what we are doing, we, as parent, should look beyong what is the intention, or is’s plain playing prank or irresponsibility.